Matt standing outdoors in a garden, away from the desk

Out of office · open to everyone

"So, what do you do?"
This is the room where you find out who you are without it.

Out of Office

You are not your job.

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Why Out of Office?

When work takes more than it gives.

Out of Office is for anyone whose working life has started to take more than it gives. Whatever your job, title or stage of career.

The rules of work have changed. Jobs for life have gone. Phones mean the office comes home with us. Restructures, redundancies and AI make even secure roles feel temporary. Many of us were taught that hard work and loyalty would be rewarded, and for a lot of people that deal no longer holds.

At the same time, work has become a bigger part of who we are. It's where we find structure, status, friendships and a sense of purpose. So when it goes wrong, through burnout, a lost job or a career that no longer fits, it doesn't just affect your income. It can shake your sense of who you are.

Therapy here isn't career coaching, and it won't tell you to quit. It's a calm, unhurried space to understand what's really going on, and to work out what you want from work, and from life, now.

So, what do you do?

You know the question. It comes up at every party.
And for years, you had an answer. A title, a company, something that explained you.

Most of us learn early to measure ourselves by what we achieve. Good grades, good job, next promotion. Work becomes how we know we're doing all right.

It works, until it doesn't. Burnout, redundancy or simply outgrowing a role can leave you feeling lost, even when everything still looks fine from the outside.

Therapy is a place to step back from all of that. You can talk about what work has given you, what it's cost you, and what you want next, with someone who's spent 25 years in that world and won't judge where you've ended up.

You are more than your job title. That's usually where things start to change.

What we work on

Eight ways work gets under your skin.

You don't need to fit one of these. Most people arrive with a bit of several.

Burnout

Still showing up. Nothing left in the tank.

Tired after a full night's sleep. Dreading Monday by Saturday lunchtime. Snapping at people you like.

Rest isn't the reward for finishing. It's how you keep going.

Work stress and anxiety

Your body clocks in before you do.

The tight chest on the commute. Rereading an email five times before sending it. Lying awake replaying the meeting.

Let's find out what's driving it.

Redundancy and job loss

The job ended. The questions did not.

The awkward goodbye. The sudden quiet. Not knowing what to say when someone asks what you do.

[Suggested] Losing a job is a loss. It deserves time.

Career change

Good at it. Not sure you want it any more.

Successful on paper. Restless in practice. Wondering if it's too late to start again.

It rarely is. Let's work out what you actually want.

Imposter syndrome

Waiting to be found out.

Overpreparing for everything. Putting success down to luck. Hearing one criticism louder than ten compliments.

You got here for a reason. Let's find out why it doesn't feel like it.

Always on

Out of office. Still checking.

Emails on holiday. Slack at the dinner table. Guilt whenever you're not working.

Boundaries aren't laziness. They're how you last.

Leadership pressure

Everyone brings you their problems. Who do you bring yours to?

Making the hard calls. Holding it together for the team. No one to be honest with.

A space where you don't have to be the one in charge.

Life after work

Stepping back is harder than it looks.

Retirement, a sabbatical, a break you didn't choose. Days without structure. Missing the person you were at work.

Who are you when you're not working? Let's find out.

Matt listening, hands together, in the room he works from

Who you'll be talking to

25 years in that world. Now on the other side of the desk.

Before training as a psychotherapist, I spent 25 years working internationally with brands including Adidas, Puma, Dr. Martens and Nike: leading teams, managing big egos and hitting impossible deadlines. I know the pressures because I've lived them.

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How it works

A free first call, then 50-minute sessions online at £120. Same terms as all Talking Cure Works therapy.